In this instance, you really need to take a look at why you’re trying to bail this person out all the time. We either make excuses for their bad behaviour, or pretend it isn’t happening at all. “.if you find that they are disrespectful, don’t treat you well, and you don’t feel good with the person then chances are you might be being used.”Ĭhances are, if this is happening, we won’t want to admit it.
“The basic yardstick for telling whether you are being used or not is to take a good look at how you are being treated,” Aimee says. You’re making excuses for being treated badlyĪre you always explaining to your friends that your partner is just tired or stressed - saying that’s why they’re being rude to you or not making the effort? That’s a huge sign. No matter how difficult it is to a admit. So the key is to know the signs and make sure that we’re being honest with ourselves about what’s actually going on in our relationship. “I think the signs that you are being used are actually pretty clear,” relationship therapist Aimee Hartstein tells Cosmopolitan UK. While it often sneaks up on us, we all know what being used looks like on someone else. You know the one, right? And yet before you know it, once they make you feel comfortable, you’re in total f*ckboy territory. It normally starts out simply enough, with someone who seems really sensitive and interesting and reflective and ‘not like everyone else’. But relationships are rarely ideal - and being used in a relationship is way more common than we’d like it to be. In an ideal world, a relationship has a lot of give and take.
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